Marriage Busters

My husband and I went to see the movie Fireproof again. It just started playing in our hometown’s movie theater and we wanted to support that. This is an excellent movie! Watching it again makes me wonder about marriages today. There are so many divorces. Wives cheating on husbands and husbands cheating on wives it makes me sad.

Jay & I are passionate about healthy marriages because we have been through infidelity and with God’s help and a lot of repentance, prayer & forgiveness we have been made stronger in our marriage. That is why we started Twogether Marriage Ministry at our church. There are some things that you can do to safeguard your marriage.

First, build your mate up. Don’t talk negatively about him with anyone, especially your friends & family. They will usually take your side and feed the fire. Second, love your mate without expectations. If they did not do something you wanted them to do or if they do something that you didn’t want them to do remember that they are human. They are not perfect nor will they ever be while here on earth. Third, communicate! I don’t mean always telling them what they are doing wrong but tell them you thoughts and feelings. Build them up with what they are doing right. Aren’t you a happier person when you are told the good things about yourself? Fourth, watch yourself when talking with the opposite sex. This one is hard for me because I am a natural flirt. I love attention and I can get myself in a heap of trouble very quickly. I am glad that I have friends in my life that will stop me and hold me accountable. Fifth, schedule date time at least once a month, make them a priority in your life. The kids, job, house, and hobbies can wait. Sixth, pray with your mate! Five minutes a day makes a big difference in your marriage!

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says:
“4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

If we could just remember that this is how we are to love one another! It does not say that love is complaining when you don’t get the attention you wanted or to disrespect your mate when you are talking with friends and family about him or her.
I admit it is a tall task but with God and with daily, no, constant prayer He will help you love your mate the way He intended.

I am not great at doing these things but I am constantly trying to better myself and trying not to go back to my old ways. If you have not gone to see this movie it is a must see. We are planning to start doing the “Love Dare” at our church in the spring. How is your marriage?